Wedding Blues

Dazee52 · 07-06-2005, 03:16 AM

O.k. so here is the situation.......

We have a group of friends, the 5 guys have been friends since jr. High. Now some are married and others have gfs. One of the guys has announced his wedding at the end of this month. He and his finance have pretty much written off everyone in the group, including his best friend, and have not been in touch with anyone for about 5 months until the wedding was announced. Now he and his finance are calling everyone, sending invitations and showing up to parties. She had the nerve to scout gifts at our last BBq, held at my home. I can't stand these two, they are arrogant, rude and completely selfish.

The problem is that they invited all the gf's to the bachlorette party except myself. They did not invite any of the guys to the bachlor party at all. There are tons of hurt feelings, betrayed thoughts and just pure disappointment. The best friend was not asked to be in the wedding or be part of the wedding at all.

They have been together for over 6 years, have two children and own a home, fully furnished. They are better off than half of us, and have flat out told peopole they will not accept gifts other than cash.

I feel this is very rude. What do you all think?

Each of us that has been invited to the wedding feel we should go to be polite, but I feel like i'm going to drop off a gift and not hear from these people again.

07-06-2005, 04:30 AM

OMG they are being extremely rude! Personally, I would not go to the wedding nor get them a gift. If they have been living together and are established they IMHO have no right asking for material gifts or $. I

kirvygerl · 07-06-2005, 04:39 AM

I personally wouldn't go to the wedding. I really don't know what point it would serve? These people obviously don't care about you or your friends feelings, and have done a very good job of going out of their way to be rude. As far as getting a gift, save your money. No point in being gracious to people who have no manners.

lovelyinkedlady · 07-06-2005, 01:06 PM

Wow........ummmm.......Well i think 5 months ago you found out who these two really were.........she's very materialist....and he's a spineless troll..........

As far as all the partys go.......if you are not a friend of the bachlorette then i can see why you were not invited......if the other girls were not friends of the bachlorette then i can't see why you weren't invited and yes it's rude and do you really wanna attened a party like that when she's so rude and snotty that it's like someone is holding a turd under her nose?

As far as inviting none of his friends from your circle of friends to his bachlore party.....well.....we all know who will be wearing the pants in that house.......

I'm NOT going to comment on the being together over 6 yrs and now have 2 childern..........As far as asking for cash instead of a physical gift.......could it be possible, that they feel they have everything they need as you did say it was furnished.....and they feel it would be better for money? I have to agree it is rude to tell people the only gift we will accept will be money.....i mean talk about thinking for others.......

I think that none of you should go, you should all find your selves to busy plan a party to have together to celebrate your friendship and don't invite the trolls....or do so and when they say well it's out wedding day, say oh i'm sorry we forgot just like you forgot who your friends were..........
I would totally write them off as they arn't polite, no morals, and don't know the true meaning of friendship
this is just my opinion

aimye · 07-06-2005, 01:34 PM

I personally would not go. I would send a card, no cash. I would actually make a donation in their name to your favorite charity and sate since no gifts are needed you thought you would help out others that are less fortunate then them. Politely decline and write them off as friends. they are too self absorbed to deserve your friendship.

DrewM · 07-06-2005, 05:08 PM

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would actually make a donation in their name to your favorite charity and sate since no gifts are needed you thought you would help out others that are less fortunate then them.

Ha! That's brilliant! Make sure to donate it to something like Amnesty International or the Coalition to Preserve Human Dignity--some organization working to improve how people treat each other.

Honestly, I wouldn't attend or get them a gift. They don't deserve your time or your money.

"No gifts other than cash." I mean really, who SAYS that???? Jerks.