Hey everyone,
So...Last month I had it officially diagnosed that I have PCOS and I've been working out really hard since the summer and eating as best as I could and I haven't seen anything but minor changes in the scale. Granted, I've lost body fat %, but I could be 18% body fat and if the scale still says 170 I wont be happy. It's REALLY depressing me and I just was wondering if anyone else was dealing with the saem thing and could either offer words of advice and tips for loosing weight or encouragement that this whole thing is not pointless. I mean I know it's for health reasons too, but seriously, at 18, looks are very important...to me anyway. The thing is, I have my prom coming up in May and I simply refuse to go if I look like this, I know I'll regret it, but I just can't bring myself to go through the agony of trying on a dress, and having to stare in the mirror for hours. Being overweight, to me, eliminates half the fun of prom. I mean I know it's to spend it with your friends and your date and everything, but where's the fun in getting all dressed up if you' ll never be happy with yoruself? That always makes me so miserable I know it'd take all the fun out of prom. I really don't know what to do, I want to go, but I don't see it being that worth it if I'm going to be miserable. My friends keep telling me I'll forget about it once I get there...which shows how little they know. It's like an addiction or something and you can't stop obsessing over it. Anyways, I just really needed to get that off my chest. Again, if anyone has some words of wisdom/encouragement, I'd REALLY appreaciate it.
I know how you feel. Regardless of how much I work out and eat right and no matter what I do I either gain weight or end up staying the same.
Just wanted to let you know that you are not alone.
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Originally posted by bookworm87 I mean I know it's for health reasons too, but seriously, at 18, looks are very important...to me anyway. The thing is, I have my prom coming up in May and I simply refuse to go if I look like this, I know I'll regret it, but I just can't bring myself to go through the agony of trying on a dress, and having to stare in the mirror for hours. Being overweight, to me, eliminates half the fun of prom. I mean I know it's to spend it with your friends and your date and everything, but where's the fun in getting all dressed up if you' ll never be happy with yoruself? That always makes me so miserable I know it'd take all the fun out of prom. I really don't know what to do, I want to go, but I don't see it being that worth it if I'm going to be miserable. My friends keep telling me I'll forget about it once I get there...which shows how little they know. It's like an addiction or something and you can't stop obsessing over it.
Oh bookworm, I know exactly how you feel.
Last year, my best friend and I decided to go shopping for prom dresses together.
There was one problem. My best friend is gorgeous and petite. And I am far from that. So I of course felt terrible at first. A few weeks before, I had even started dieting and exercising like a crazy person, but with no luck. So we went shopping - she ended up helping me pick out this gorgeous dress, and didn't care the slightest bit that I was trying on size 16 and 18 when she was trying on size 3 or 4. We had a blast, and ending up loving our dresses.
This, of course, was months before prom. So when prom time came around, I started flipping out. I was afraid I wasn't going to fit into my dress, that I was going to look ugly, blah blah blah. So I exercised a bit more just to make sure I would stay the same size. I even bought a full-body girdle, which made me feel much more comfortable.
That night was incredible. I completely forgot about how I looked, (I tried to keep my shawl on all night to hide my ripples on my back...but I just had to give it up). It was so much fun. The dancing and the friends and the limo...it was all so exciting, I didn't have time to worry about what other people thought I looked like.
I completely understand how you feel. And I know how you think that your body will ruin prom if it doesn't change. But I consider Prom '04 one of the best nights of my life, and I'm so excited to go again this year. Please don't let the way you think of yourself get in the way of such an incredible experience. If you can bear the shopping, (it's actually much easier with a friend there, no matter what size she wears), and get past whatever other obstacles are in your way, you will have an excellent time.
Please try. *hug*
<3 Anna
*edit* By the way, I just noticed your icon...I'm a huge Lord of the Rings fan.
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Hey guys, I just wanted to thank you very much for your response. I'm just really getting sad about going because all the things prom is meant to be (I know that sounds so cliched). I just can't get past it. I promise I'll try my best but I don't have much hope for that. I know that there will be lots of overweight people...more overweight then me cause I'm only a 12-14...and they'll go and enjoy themselves and I 100% admire then for that becuase it's something I can't get past and they're either totally happy with themselves, which I think is fantastic, or it just doesnt bother them. I, on the other, can't do that and it drives me nuts cause I miss out on so much. I was going on a trip to NYC and I was losing weight and everything in September/October so I thought for sure I'd be a size I could be happy with by May. Well...it backfired...didnt lose the weight...and gained back what I'd lost. I wanted to giveup my spot on teh trip but my parents and friends wouldnt let me and I had the most amazing time. I still hate looking at the pictures though because I'm fat. I know I would be happy once I got to prom but getting there is just so painful for me. I don't know if I'm ever going to be thin now. I'd give anything to be one of those people who...if you overeat you gain weight, eat right you lose weight. They don't realize how lucky they've got it...
bookworm
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