Were starting the adoption process!

Skywaitress94 · 11-03-2002, 04:59 AM

My husband and I have decided to move forward with a state run adoption program. It is for special need children and we will be what they call a flexible family. It is the name for the "baby program", the intent being to place infants with foster parents with the intent of adoption. Parental rights may already be terminated or in the process of being terminated and then we can adopt. We are attending orientation this week and will then begin classes.

I am excited, but scared. After losing our miracle baby this summer my heart is till broken. I long to carry a child in my womb but my heart is so full of love it will explode if I dont share it.

I pray that God gives us the strength to do what we will be required and that he blesses us with the most beautiful child.

Has anyone else done such a program? If so, how was your experience?

Lisa

dna · 11-03-2002, 11:52 AM

Hi !

We are on the waiting list for CAS which would be the same thing as state run for you but nothing comes of it much up here...

We are also in the line up for international ! yay !

Anyways my main reason for responding is becuz you have had a rough go of it and I just wanted to wish you the BEST of luck in this endeavor

Adoption is not always the easiest road but can be well well
worth it in the end

Good luck !!!!!!

Skywaitress94 · 11-07-2002, 01:02 AM

dna,

It seems like we still keep having obstucles put in our way. I am heartbroken now (Ive actually been crying hysterically for over a hour) because we were 30 minutes late (thanks to DH) to the orientation. As a result we arent able to start classes and now have to wait till January.

I feel like we are always told to wait...like God doesnt want us to have a baby. Since we decided to move forward I have finally been fairly free of all my sadness, I actually found myself planning for the arrival of a new bundle - just to be told to wait. I am tired of waiting.

I am so heartbroken it's like losing another child.

I dont know what to do. I dont even think I will go to work tomorrow. I think instead I will call the therapist we were seeing and go there, I just dont know what to do.

Lisa

Calantha · 11-07-2002, 02:01 AM

I'm sorry you have to wait to take the classes. DH and I are doing international adoption. Of course, just as the ball got rolling, our car died, and sucked up all our money to replace it! So, we're playing the waiting game right now as well. Why not call and ask if there's anything you can do in the meantime to speed the process along once you take the classes? Get birth certificates, fingerprints, physicals... stuff like that. It doesn't sound like much, but everything seems to come with a hassle. Getting these things out of the way now might make it go smoother later, and help you to feel like you're making at least SOME kind of progress..

Good luck! *hugs*

-Brandy

dna · 11-07-2002, 09:44 AM

Lisa

I dont know the heartbreak you are feeling over your loss...I do know however the constant burning of having to wait and wait and feel like you are never ever going to be a parent...

Its not a fun game it never is...January is not that far away..it will give you time to build your strength through Christmas and New Years...It will take all of your strength to tackle this adoption process... we have had our homestudy done since June ? yeah we started in May and still NOTHING we wait patiently sitting on our hands for fear of grabbing every child that passes.. !!

Go to the therapist work it out with her/him...Think of each obstacle as a step closer...it sometimes helps and I always try to think of at least one thing in my life I am grateful for...sometimes that helps...

My DH and I have resigned to the fact that someday somehow we will be parents and in our case we believe "everything happens for a reason" some of those reasons we will never know...

Hold on to what you have and use it as strength and stepping stones...

I am here if you need to chat always ...
you can PM me

Take good care of yourself
Amy

Skywaitress94 · 11-11-2002, 03:24 AM

I have decided to make the time pass faster that I will move ahead with some of the program requirements so those are done...like baby proofing the house and taking the cat to the vet.

I have also decided to through a baby shower for a friend who had the same due date as I did. I am excited and am loving watching her belly grow. It is sad sometimes and to be honest I get sadder as it gets closer to our due date. I wish the shower was for me.

I have another friend who is due one month before I was. She is going to be staying with me in April and I just pray that when she does we may have anew little one and that we can be "mommies" together.

It is so hard sometimes, I even think of buying nursery items and making a nursery. Sometimes I think this is positive thinking but at others I know this is dangerous and so I wait and pray.

Lisa