What can I do while TTC?

sparrow · 06-11-2003, 01:13 PM

I have a lot of the same symptoms you ladies write about in this forum--fatigue, anxiety, a panic attack every now and then, brain fog, loss of interest in many activities. I do believe I am clinically depressed but have never spoken to a dr. about it. We have been TTC for over 2 years, and I guess I shouldn't be on any meds for that reason. Is there anything else I can do? I won't benefit from low-carbing (I'm not IR or overweight). I guess I could exercise more, but even when I do, it doesn't have any long-lasting effects. I plan to talk to my GP at my yearly appt. in a couple of weeks, but until then, what can I do?

This is really hard for me to talk about. My DH doesn't know what on earth to do about me, so he takes the "wait and see" approach. My friends seem to have enough of their own problems, so I hate to "dump" on them. Plus I am fighting the feelings inside me that say, "Just tough it out. That's just life. Life isn't fair, and it isn't easy, so get over it." That may all be true, but surely we aren't destined to walk around in a fog like this all the time, are we?

Thanks for any advice.

SheriKCMO · 06-11-2003, 02:18 PM

Sparrow,
{{Hugs}}
It is so hard to snap out of something like this, especially when you don't know if your baby will ever come. For me, it feels like I'm frozen in time, waiting for something to happen. Do you feel this way?

Recently, I made some decisions, including to refocus on my career for the moment and trying to get healthy. That way, my mind isn't on fertility problems 24/7 causing the continuous negativity. So far, it has helped me.

Meditation and guided imagery/visualization has been great for me over the years, and it might feel good for you in this situation. Basically, it's a mental vacation. You can do it on your own or get some tapes or info online or at the library. Hokey, but true, it feels great.

Getting a massage every week or two might give you some much-needed pampering without drugs. It's great for circulation, which might help your thought processes.

Has your doctor or anyone else advised you about nutritional supplements? They might help you out and not be harmful when you do become pregnant.

If the exercise that you've tried hasn't been uplifting, perhaps you should look around a bit. I get together with friends twice a week to do yoga, and it is a social event afterward that helps me as much as the yoga itself.

Please take care of yourself, and give something a chance to do some good just for you. Life is great, and sometimes we just need a reminder.
Your cyster,
Sheri

P.S. Are you in Indianapolis? I'll be visiting there in July and would love to meet up with a cyster or two!

sparrow · 06-11-2003, 06:26 PM

Sheri, thanks for the reply. Frozen in time is exactly how I have described my feelings. I had planned my life around having children by now. Now I feel like I don't know what to do. I feel like I should focus on other things, and I really do try, but our major life decisions are still structured around the idea of having children, so it's hard to block it completely out. But I'm giving it my best shot! And you had some really good ideas. I'm going to have to keep those in mind. I love your phrase that life is great, and sometimes we just need a reminder.

I'm not very close to Indy at all.

Welcome to our state, though, when you come!

SheriKCMO · 06-12-2003, 12:52 AM

I'm so happy that you appreciated some of my thoughts. Your feelings really sounded like the ones that have bogged me down for a couple of years. I really hope you can feel better and start the family that will fulfill all of those plans. Thanks for the welcome, the city (and whole state) looks like a fun place to visit.
Your cyster,
Sheri

mmandmore · 06-12-2003, 04:22 PM

I just wanted to let you know that there is an anti-depressant that you can take while ttc and your depressed if you felt the "need" to have it. There is Zoloft and one other that begins with a P (my dr told me about them yesterday). I too have been depressed and felt that I did need something to help me. So he put me on Zoloft 50mg. So I'm praying I feel better soon.

DavisSR · 06-15-2003, 01:29 PM

I took Wellbutrin SR during my pregnancy with my last daughter. It was wonderful because, although I had the same pregnancy hormones, I didn't feel like snapping at everybody. I did have my moments once in awhile, but they weren't so bad as in my previous pregnancy. I was approved by my OB/GYN to take it, so I didn't feel bad for taking it.

sparrow · 06-21-2003, 02:25 AM

Shelby, Sheri, and Sheri, thank you. I called my RE's office. They said they would be OK with me taking Zoloft, if my dr. monitored me. I saw my dr. today and after asking me a few questions about my symptoms, gave me a starter pack of Zoloft. I have a followup appt. in a month. I hope it helps. I am up and down so much; I am looking forward to a chance to end the mood swings as much as possible. I hope, Shelby, that it helps both of us.

DavisSR, how are you doing these days?