We just had another loss, a miscarriage at 8 weeks, and I need your advice...
Long story short...I had a subchorionic hemmorhage and I thought the bleeding had stopped, so I stopped the bedrest and resumed my normal activity. After I showered, I started bleeding heavily and a couple hours later I delivered my tiny baby. I had to go to the ER because I was bleeding so much. I bled for hours and had to be admitted for observation as I was close to needing a transfusion. Thank God, the bleeding finally stopped.
Needless to say, I haven't been to work the last week and am returning in the morning. What do I tell my co-workers? I don't really want to "get into it," but I also don't just want to say that I was "sick." Only 2 of my bosses and my 2 best friends at work know...
Any advice?
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I'm sorry you've had to go through this. If you & they would be comfortable with it maybe your boss or your friends could inform the other coworkers that you lost your baby. They could get a nice card for you that everyone could sign or something - that way it doesn't just become workplace gossip. Or, you could just tell those who ask "I had a miscarriage, I don't really want to talk about it, but I will be ok" or whatever you might be feeling. I think they'd like to know the truth & it might be easier on you too (I know sometimes coworkers can be chatty about someone who is sick for so long). Just let them know how you are doing & whether or not you want to talk about it. I think that way if you are a little distracted from your work when you get back no one will hold it against you, either. Good luck & I hope you are finding some comfort.
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Heidi!!!! I am soooo sorry! I just logged on havent been here since we moved and oh my i just dont know what to say.
Its always sad to see so many new faces here, you know how much help you gave me when i needed it the most...i wish i could return the favor right now, just know that i'm thinking of you As for work...people are incredibly self absorbed...caught up in their own lives. The pain of your loss is so fresh now...my advice for what its worth is...do whats right for you. What they need to know is only what you need to tell them, nothing more then that. Many many hugs coming your way my friend...dont hesitate to pm i dont have your email anymore i dont think since the move...but i'm here for you.
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Heidi:
I have been away from the boards. I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I can't even imagine what you are going through. Please try and take care of yourself. I will continue to say prayers for you and your family.
Heidi,
I was with you on the April board. I too am now over here. I m/c on Friday. I am glad to see this thread. A few people from work know about me being pg. I will have to tell them something...
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heidi! i am so sorry! i haven't been here in several days, so i am just finding out. take care of yourselves, and i will have you in my thoughts... of course if there were anything else a friend could do, i would be right there. so many hugs, sweetie.
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What do I say...(lc briefly mentioned) 
As for work...people are incredibly self absorbed...caught up in their own lives. The pain of your loss is so fresh now...my advice for what its worth is...do whats right for you. What they need to know is only what you need to tell them, nothing more then that. Many many hugs coming your way my friend...dont hesitate to pm i dont have your email anymore i dont think since the move...but i'm here for you. 
