What happened to...?

AvarraClover · 06-14-2009, 04:55 AM

I can't remember his name, but there was a guy posting on here a while back that was very depressed and concerned about his wife. He had a couple of posts that got really long. I am not sure if any of you remember who I am talking about. This was probably near the end of 2008?

I think he wasn't sure she had PCOS and couldn't get her to research it. All I remember is that he just stopped posting. For some reason I started thinking about him. He seemed so depressed.

Anyways, just wondering if anyone knows what happened to him? (If you even know who I am talking about.)

Thanks!

winnie0366 · 06-14-2009, 07:43 PM

I think I know who you are referring to, but I'm not sure what happened either...

AvarraClover · 06-15-2009, 01:20 AM

I figured out his name, Neechogan. According to his profile he hasnt been on since the end of december. If anyone knows his email or something I would love to know how he is doing.

Neechogan · 07-02-2009, 08:45 PM

Hi AvarraClover,

Neechogan here. Not sure what possessed me to come to the board today. Curiosity I guess. You're right, I haven't been on the board since last December and I only came by to see if someone who came to me privately at a time when I so desperately needed a friend was still around. I guess that's probably why I came today.

Harley, if your out there somewhere, I hope you're doing OK.

I started posting here almost 3 years ago and I was desperately looking for information and support from other men married to women with PCOS. I was grieving the loss of intimacy in my marriage and I was in a state of depression because of the constant rejection and at one point even thought of commiting suicide. The vicious outbursts during mood swings and the lack of intimacy was hard on me and it took a big toll on me emotionally.

I said a lot of things in my thread that caused some negative reaction amongst the systers. I was constantly under attack by people who thought I was unloving, uncaring, and selfish. I never did get any advice from the mysters out there. I find it sad to see that none of the guys who used to post here when I was have stopped posting and haven't been on the board for a long time. This is my first post in over a year.

Not much has changed. My wife is still in denial, although for a while there I thought that I had convinced her to take her meds. However, she still isn't. While she may kiss me a little more than she used to, the sex problems are still there. I still cry myself to sleep sometimes but that's not happening very often anymore. Maybe my tears are starting to dry up. I know that I haven't had a lot of time to focus on her PCOS and what its doing to us and maybe that's why I don't cry as much any more.

I still love my wife dearly and I still long to feel her touch sometimes. Maybe one day, God willing, I won't have reason to cry.

Thank you for asking about me.

AvarraClover · 07-02-2009, 09:11 PM

I'm glad to hear from you. Sorry things are still ruff, It sounds like you are starting to come to terms with everything albeit slowly.

I hope things continue to get better even if its small increments at a time.

Hugs