What makes a mother

Hayles · 08-25-2004, 02:22 AM

Here is a poem that a friend gave me to read it has helped me a lot i hope it can help someone else!!

I thought of you and closed my eyes and prayed to god today I asked "What makes a mother?" And I know I heard him say...
"A Mother has a baby" This we know is true "But god can you be a mother when your babies not with you?" "Yes you can" he replied with confidence in his voice "I give many women babies when they leave is not their choice,Some I send for a lifetime and others for the day, And some I send to feel your womb but theres no need to stay"
" I just dont understand this God I want my baby to be here."
He took a deep breath and then I saw the tear " I wish I could show you what your child is doing today. If you could see your child's smile, With the other children and say....
" We go to Earth to learn our lesson's of love and life and fear.
My mummy loved me so much I got to come straight here. I feel so lucky to have a Mum who had so much love for me. I learned my lessons very quickly my mummy set me free. I miss my Mummy oh so much, But i visit her everyday. When she goes to sleep at night on her pillows where I lay, I stroke her hair and kiss her cheek, And whisper in her ear. " Mummy don't be sad today I'm your baby and i'm here."
"So you see my dear sweet one's your children are are okay. Your babies are born here in My home and this is where they'll stay. They'll wait for you with me,Until your lessons through. And on the day that you come home they'll be at the gates for you.
So now you see what makes a mother it's the feeling in your heart it's the love you had so much of right from the very start.
Though some on Earth may not realise, Until their time is done...
YOU ARE A MOTHER They'll be up here with me one day and know that you are the BEST ONE!!!"

thing1 · 08-25-2004, 01:40 PM

Thanks for posting this. It's nice to know someone feels the same way as me.

Due to all this liberal crap going around, no one really recognizes my early m/c's as babies. To them, my babies were just balls of cells. To them, my babies never counted as human beings. My friends just don't understand.

But to me, they were my babies. My babies. And no one really wants to acknowledge that, so I feel really isolated when I'm in pain, when I'm sad and depressed, like today. It's a very lonely feeling to believe something that other people won't.

Suze
on a very sad, difficult day

Hayles · 08-25-2004, 08:55 PM

Hi suz I'm glad it helped you!!! I completely understand about your friends not understanding I even had my sister in law call me a defective person!!!
I know how much it hurts and how little most people understand.
Now when i read that poem i don't cry anymore coz i find peace knowing that our angel babies are watching over us all! I Hope it Brightened up your day & I'll send some hugs your way

Severine7 · 08-31-2004, 04:31 PM

Thank you for sharing that.

Suze-I understand. My sister actually said to me that I was lucky I wasn't further along because her friend who was 20wks pg at her m/c *had* to name her baby. By that point, I had had enough of everyone acting like my loss was no big deal and I set her straight. To be fair, though, before I had my miscarriage, I had no idea. I was one of those people that now irritate me. This loss has changed my mind about a lot of things...unfortunately, the hard way.

kwannabee · 09-01-2004, 09:02 PM

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I miss my Mummy oh so much, But i visit her everyday. When she goes to sleep at night on her pillows where I lay, I stroke her hair and kiss her cheek, And whisper in her ear. " Mummy don't be sad today I'm your baby and i'm here."

Hi Hayles...i came across this poem awhile back too and posted it here...this particular sentence was so comforting to me.

Its nice to think our babies are with us even if we cant hold them...hope youre doing okay.

Amy_53405 · 09-13-2004, 02:01 AM

This poem was soooo true. I had a m/c about 2 weeks ago (I was 4wks along) and everyone keeps telling me that there wasn't really any babies but they don't understand that as soon as I was told "your pregnant" I started talking to my belly and everything. So, even though my baby didn't have arms or legs yet, it is still an angelbaby to me. TY for sharing....

Hayles · 09-13-2004, 04:04 AM

Amy
Im so sorry to hear of your loss. I wish you all the best with your healing. (((((hugs)))))

cjboo1 · 09-16-2004, 06:20 PM

I just recently got married (two months ago) and shortly there after (5 wks into the marriage) found out i was four weeks pregnant. (they tried to convince me it was more like 6 wks i was like UHHH NO not possible. but apparently its just how they count it from your last AF)

Shortly after finding out i was pregnant i started cramping and spoting one night before i went to bed when i got up the next morning my DH was late to work cause i hurt so bad then he came home to take me to the hospital cause i was bleeding really bad. I had lost the baby at that point

I went back to work a week or so later (my boss knew what happened cause i had missed several days of work afterwards) and my boss asked me how i was doing. I was still really upset about it and said "i'll live" she looked at me and told me i just needed to get over it!!

I couldnt believe she said that (and after she told me she knew how i felt because she lost twins before) i figured she of all people would be more supportive and understanding. It hurts when people say things like that especially when they have no idea what its like to lose a child (no matter how "young").

This was my second misscarriage i lost a little girl (never was told the sex just kinda knew in my heart) when i was 15 (i had been raped and managed to get preg. from it) even though it wasn't a "planned" pregnancy or really a happy one i wanted that baby so much. But no one seems to understand why, everyone says "well wouldn't 'it' just have reminded you of what happened?" and im like "yeah but that baby didn't ask to be brought about that way its not his/her fault so why should i blame him/her??"

Sorry for the rant i just dont understand how cruel some people can be.

Hayles · 09-16-2004, 09:22 PM

Welcome to the roller coaster(well it seems like that sometimes) So sorry about your loss I know they aren't easy.
I know this isn't much of a constalation prize but YOU CAN GET PREGNANT!!! When all else fails i have hope in the fact i've been pregnant before & ill be pregnant again.
Are you taking metformin? They believe that it can greatly reduce the risk of m/c also I would be asking your doctor to do some repeat pregnancy loss tests this may seem a bit extreme but if the doctor I was seeing at the time had've tested me after the 2nd I may not have lost the 3 baby (have other factors contributing). Congrats on the new marriage

I was married wow 10 months ago. I wont be a newlywed for much longer

Hope you & dh (dear husband) are doing well see ya round the message board!!!