what to think??...

metforminthincyster · 05-15-2006, 06:30 PM

I know right now is not a good time in my life to get pregnant...I'm just worried the longer I wait...the less possibility I will be able to get pregnant in the future...I feel I should start trying now...so that way by 27 or so..I will become pregnant. My gyno says he doesn't think getting pregnant will be a problem for me. But I was in a 2 year relationship..prior to the one I'm in now..never used protection and never became pregnant.

Does anybody else feel this way..or is this just me??

dreamingoftwins · 05-15-2006, 09:34 PM

it's not just you. i have the same mindset lately. however i don't ovulate. and the metformin isn't helping me ovulate either so i'm at a standstill. i go from cycle to cycle being started by provera or prometrium with nothing happening on it's own. it's so frustrating. my ob/gyn has given me clomid but i'm afraid it won't work. only way to know is to take it i guess. even though we're not quite ready for a child but i guess we have at least 9 months to worry about getting ready huh?

kirvygerl · 05-15-2006, 11:31 PM

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Originally Posted by metforminthincyster

I know right now is not a good time in my life to get pregnant.

Personally, I think you just answered your own question right there. I think it's quite natural to be concerned about your future fertility. Heaven knows that I spent more than my fair share of anxious nights and buckets of tears over it. But, if this isn't a good time for you to have children, then it's both unfair for you and those children to bring them into the world right now. However, there are things you can do to prepare yourself physically for when the time is right. What are your cycles like? Do you have them? Are they regular? Do you chart your cycles? Do you know if you ovulate? Your screen name mentions that you are thin. Are you too thin? Even if your thin, are you IR or do your eating habits need an overhaul? Are you getting enough rest? Do you smoke, drink excessively or take illegal drugs? Do you exercise? Do you live a stressful life? Do you work excessively? All of these things, and many more, can contribute to your fertility. My point is that you can take the best care of you right now so that when you are ready for children, you'll have a head start.

Take good care~

alex · 05-16-2006, 01:51 AM

Hi,

I too am worried about "leaving it too late". Hey, the media tells us to be even without having PCOS! It's quite natural to think about it.

But personally, I am not in a stable enough position to bring a child into the world and neither is my partner. (How does your partner feel?) Worrying that I might not be able to in the future is not a good enough reason to do something I'm not ready for and it wouldn't be fair on that child, in my opinion.

Good luck,
Alex

metforminthincyster · 05-16-2006, 08:59 PM

I am healthy..no I do not do any drugs..and I might have a drink or two over the weekend. I don't smoke..mild stress, good sleep..and yes I am thin. I seldom ever eat fast food..ocassionally I will have pizza though. I do have my period every month it's usually always about 4 days - a week in a half late from my prior period. I am supposed to see my gyno 2 weeks from my last period to see whether or not I'm ovulating by blood test. I know I ovulate becuase I have seen clear stretchy mucus in the past. I know I do not ovulate every month...how often I don't know as I just started staying on top of my ovulations...guessing..But ovulating alone doesn't mean I can get pregnant as you know. thanks for the reply..now isn't the right time...it's just hard for me to keep wondering like this...

metforminthincyster · 05-16-2006, 09:01 PM

A part of him wants to but I think for the same reason...becuase we just don't know how hard it's going to be..He's kinda testing out the waters..with no luck though..maybe for the best.

guineapig · 05-17-2006, 04:40 PM

Why don't you use non-hormonal bc (diaphragm or condomns) & track your cycles to see if you are at least ovulating? MOST female infertility factors are problems with ovulation, and treatment for that kind of guides the "when" and "how." You can also treat your PCOS with IR diet, IR meds (metformin or Avandia/Actos, DCI, Byetta, etc), etc and get the body ready to start ovulating correctly. Now if you have endometriosis, I think that is a better-soon-than-later thing. Your old relationship might have had a male factor too, did he have any other children/pg/new-children?

TennisNut · 05-17-2006, 06:58 PM

Hi Metforminthincyster!!
I am similar to you. I am a thin cyster and I worry everyday about my fertility. I am 31 and I am in a stable relationship, have been for well over a year. I am want to start trying to have a baby so badly!! But, I do want to be married first. I find myself getting frustrated because I want things to happen now!! But, I also know that I don't want to be a single mother, so I want to make sure that this relationship is meant to be. I think Kirvygerl is right about preparating the body now for future fertility. That's what keeps me exercising, eating right, etc.

But, to make a long story short, there are others of us in the same situation! Hang in there!!

steph21 · 05-17-2006, 10:20 PM

I am 26 and I feel the very same way you do. I am putting alot of pressure on my bf to get married and try to have a baby. I guess that is wrong to put pressure on him. I just cant wait for him anymore. We have been together a really long time and if he isnt ready by my 27th birthday I will have to move on. Its a little over 3 months away. I just am scared about my fertility also. If he doesnt think I am the one after all this time then we dont need to be together. I dont need to waste more time with him. It could take me a long time to find someone else that i would want to marry. But hang in there. I think there are lots of us that feel the same way.