scubastar5

Ok, so i have heard a lot of you talk about insensitive doctors and nurses. I realize that these doctors really do a lot for us and i really respect their job and the fact that they give up so much for their patients. I work in healthcare so i understand the sacrifices. However, i was wanting to hear peoples experiences and what they did. I also wanted to tell you all my situation and see how how you all would respond.
To start off, i absolutely love my OB doctor, he is very quick with his pelvic exams and he is extremely understanding. Not to mention, he is the best infertility doctor in my city! However, every time i call his nurses about questions, (and yes i do probably get on their nerves by asking several questions, but i feel like that is their job and i only call when it is necessary) they act like i am putting them out and they are very short with me. Also, when i first found out i was pregnant i was not even late for my period, but i called them anyways asking if there were any special precautions. And we had planned a trip to kings island amusement park and i asked if it would be ok for me to still go. She said that a ride would not cause someon to lose a baby. But i was still weary and checked sources online. All of these sources said very different. She also told me in that conversation to call her back on the next wednesday if i still had a positive preg test. Well on Tuesday i started cramping really bad and i called them because of brown discharge. her response was "Well if you havent lost the baby by friday then give us a call and we will schedule you an appointment) i was really upset over her response!!!! Also, the next day i started bleeding and i called her to say i was going to the ER if they wouldnt see me "She said well there is nothing we can do, but we may be able to squeeze you in." I feel like i need someone that is a little bit more understanding when i start to try again. I have considered leaving my doctor but i love him. What would you all do?

AnotherDreamer

I think you should talk to your doctor about her bedside manner, as it were. She shouldn't be so callous in her field, especially being a nurse. Nurses are supposed to be compassionate with patients and help them feel at ease. I know, it's a hard field, with major burnout, BUT that does not excuse her behavior. If someone comes to you wanting help you don't treat them that way. Don't ditch your doctor just yet, but definitely tell your doc exactly what you've told us here.

I'm sorry she was so mean to you hun (*HUGS*)

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SheriKCMO

It is very hard to do, but talking to your doctor privately about this, or even writing a letter if you think you might break down during the conversation, is definitely the best thing. He needs to know. And he might be able to give you instructions for next time. You might be better off asking for a specific nurse by name over the phone and get better bedside manner, you might be able to leave him a message to call you back directly, that kind of thing. I'm really sorry you didn't go nine months this time, but especially that you had to go through it without some kindness from that nurse... how about her saying I'm sorry!! Sheesh. (((Hugs)))

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enits

I'd probably write a letter to my OB if that happened to me. As Sheri mentioned in the aforementioned post, your doctor needs to know how his nurse is doing -- he probably has no idea that her bedside manner is bad as it is. I'm a big fan of letter writing -- it has done wonders for me. When I was trying to get pregnant, it was very difficult trying to contact my doctor re: recurrent pregnancy loss testing. I wrote him a letter and a couple of days later, the necessary lab work needed were ordered for me. HAd I just talked to his nurse, the message probably would never have reached my doctor.

Good luck! And I'm sorry that you're going through this. ((hugs))

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