When did you realize you were bi/gay?

Raven1 · 08-28-2003, 03:13 PM

I have know since I was like 3yrs old. I can remember thinking that women were so pretty and men were just blah...

What about you?

Raven1 · 08-29-2003, 12:20 AM

I used to make my Barbies do that too!!! LOL! For me being this way really started to suck in Jr High and High School. I became depressed and miserable. It's hard enough to go through adolesence but this made it 10x more difficult. Eventually I got through it but not til I was 18. Thanks for sharing your story!

Cretia5080 · 08-31-2003, 04:32 PM

I was pretty young too when I first started looking at women...Like 7 or 8. I used to look at my dad's Playboys and stuff and be like, "OMG." I always loved looking at women...Still do!

Raven1 · 09-03-2003, 02:16 AM

Oh yeah I am totally out to my mom and dad. Even my grandma knows and is so cool about it all. Not all my relatives know but most of them. I must be one of the lucky ones. My mom and dad are sooooo cool with everything. They are real down to Earth. They love me and we can joke about it. My mom "came across" my diary when I was a teen, that's how she found out-sneaky little mother. I didn't even have to come out. She was just like...I know you are gay and after denying it a few times I finally said I was. My friends even knew before I told them. They are all str8 and boy crazy and I never was and never will be. My mom did go through a few months of, "R U sure you are?" and "But you are so beautiful?". She got over that real quick though. I am so proud of them. Any girlfriend I have ever had they have welcomed with open arms.

My current girlfriend's mom doesn't accept it and won't ever meet me. She has said so many times. I have met her Dad and he is a real nice guy. I just don't know. I mean family is real important to me and I know if this relationship is going to work because of that. I mean, she can come to my family functions and gatherings any time she wants, but I will never be involved in her family. I really hate that. Is that stupid?

Raven1 · 09-03-2003, 10:33 PM

Thanks Kristen, I know you are right but it just gets frusterating. I am missing out on a big part of her life. It has been almost five years since she came out to them so, I don't think her mom will change her mind. Oh well what r ya gonna do...

squidge63 · 09-04-2003, 07:40 AM

I knew at 14 i was, but had always been a tomboy, i had GI Joe and Ken, and any dolls i had i always cut their hair (they would have got into the Marines with the haircut i gave them...lol).. i hung out with boys and the few girls i had as friends seemed to be tomboys as well....
I went down the i'm str8 road as i was too scared to confront the truth (esp being brought up Catholic).. I had boyfriends and did have a great time, but i always felt there was something missing and it just wasnt right.... then after the last guy i stayed single for 10 years, which didnt bother me, the latter end of that time i realised i was trying to be something i wasnt.. so on my 34th birthday (20yrs after i knew lol)...i came out. Most of my friends know and are fine about it, alot of them said we always knew and were jsut waiting for you to come out...lol (i always used to deny it..lol).. I havent told my folks, but deep down i know they know but i just dont feel i can tell them.
As alot of my friends said... you are still the same person that we know and like and so what if your gay.. shame the whole world doesnt share the same view on life.

JD8 · 09-05-2003, 02:16 AM

I didn't come out until I was 24. I didn't go on my first date (with a boy) until I was in college. I just wasn't interested in men. Of course, I was fantasizing about girls, but I seriously didn't think I was gay (small town mentality, I guess). Then I started working in the travel industry (aka gay bar) and started thinking about it. Actually a few gay boys called me out. I denied it for a few weeks, then when I figured it out (and accepted it), I marched back in and told them. They thought that was hilarious. Anyway, I got set up on a blind date and have happily been with my partner for over 5 years now. My family knows. My mom had the hardest time with it, but she's coming around. It's amazing how many people know without you having to tell them.

JD8 · 09-09-2003, 01:31 PM

I just found out that one of my aunts and all of her children knew. I started telling one of my cousins and she stopped me and said, "sweetie, we know -- and we don't think there's anything wrong with it." I just sat there dumbfounded. Relieved, but dumbfounded.

JD8 · 09-09-2003, 03:20 PM

Oh, I hear you on the denial "friend of the family." My girlfriend bought my mom a book about having a gay child and wrote her this nice note about how far she's come... you know, something that most people would be happy to receive. My mom got mad and threw it away. She didn't tell me about it; my dad did. My dad thought it was a bad idea too. Parents can be really crazy. I love how they make it all about them. geesh.

AngelRose · 09-24-2003, 11:09 AM

ive never really told anyone.......... but everyone i know just knows lmao

i openly flirt and perve on both women and men... im not really shy about who knows... lol

My dad is in a bit of denial, but he does mind watching my porn, and his brother, my uncle, thinks its hillarious that we flirt with the same type of chics.