My best friend (aged 32) has just been diagnosed with PCOS. She had her first ovarian drilling last week and has been told by her consultant that if she wants to have children she needs to decide now, ie in the next 2 - 3 months. My friend and her husband have always said they will probably have children, perhaps in the next year or so, but have never been desperate. I am really concerned that she is being forced to make such an important decision when she is not really ready.
Prior to her ovarian drilling my friend had many of the symptoms of PCOS inclusing hair loss and weight gain and it is the weight gain that is her biggest concern. She has said she would like to lose her excess weight and feel better in herself before she contemplates children.
She has been told that she should avoid having further ovarian drilling as it is not good for her body.
Can anyone offer any advice or suggestions? Your help would be much appreciated.
I know of another lady that was told to hurry and have kids because of PCOS symptoms. There are a lot of docs out there who don't understand PCOS. Your friend should find a doc that knows a ton about PCOS. Many ladies on here got PG in their 30s. You might want to post on the Trying To Conceive board as they have some great answers over there!
She really needs to find a DR that understands the issues with PCOS. If she is not comfy in her own skin she should get that way and then start TTC. The longer she waits the harder it is supposed to get but you should never have TTC pushed on you. She might want to try Metformin cause it has done wonders for me and I feel so much better.
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It also depends on family history. 32 isn't too early compared to my own age and experience. Lets just say I am in my early 20's and the need for fertility meds was required to have my first (due soon). I was also told that it was a matter of now or never as medically on the side where PCOS came from- 1 aunt was infertile at 22, another aunt had to go through IVF in her mid 20's and my other aunt had children very early.
I had massive weight gain when PCOS hit and while it would have been nice to shed the pounds before I concieved- it was a matter of " would I rather be more slender and risk not having children or would I rather try to have children and potentially be this fluffy for a while?" Funny thing is- I have lost over 30 lbs with my pregnancy.
Life is about choices- Maybe your friends consultant/Doctor knows something beyond just having PCOS, or the severity of the PCOS itself (which also has a huge impact on fertility) Like other posters- I would HIGHLY recommend metformin as a first line of attack as it does make a lot of things better including chances for TTC and weight loss. Sometimes though we are forced to look at our own limits whether we are ready to or not. Just think about people diagnosed with cancer and having to decide on treatments that could potentially save thier lives but then they'll never have children--- Is anyone ever truly ready to face the medical possibility of not having children?
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Well...I know from personal experience that time really does fly by. In addition to having PCOS, I also have some other physical issues that make having a baby problematic. When I first found out about that, I was in my early 30's and my gyno told me that I had plenty of time...then, this PCOS thing was diagnosed last year...I'll be 40 this fall...and the window is closing fast. I wish that I'd started trying to conceive a long time ago...I wish that I'd known that fertility isn't something that you can turn on like a water tap when you are ready for it.
It seemed like I spent so much energy when I was younger trying to NOT get pregnant...I took for granted that when I was ready...it wouldn't be a problem. I had no idea that even then I had stuff going on that made it if not impossible, then certainly improbable. Surprise.
Someone told me once that if you wait for the perfect time to have a baby, then you'll be waiting for ever. I kind of think that person was right.
Your friend and her husband will have to decide for themselves, of course, but, at least they know what they are dealing with earlier than they might be...wish them luck for me!
PS: Your friend has nothing to lose by getting as healthy as possible over the next year...she could take the time to work on the PCOS issues (which she should do anyway, baby or no baby) and use the time to see where she and her husband are on the issue, too.
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