When should AF come?

kcal · 04-26-2003, 06:49 PM

I was just told yesterday that my beta was an 8 and that the pregnancy has ended. This I guess would be considered a chemical pregnancy. Does anyone know when AF will come. I am worried because I don't get AF unless I am on Met. or b/c. The nurse said that I won't start until the hcg drops to zero. How long should this take since it is already an 8. My boobs hurt more today then they did yesterday. I am still nauseus. I don't understand why my symtons would be getting stronger if the hormone is so low. This will be our second m/c in a year since we have been trying. I am beginning to think that it will never happen. My RE is not conserned because it has only been twice not three times. Why should we have to go through this 3 times before they will look into it further!?! That is not fair to put us through this. I am depressed because all of my friends are either pregnant or have babies. I don't understand why we have a black cloud over our house. I know that there is other people out there who feel the same way. Life is so unfair. The people that don't deserve to have kids, and the people that do can't. What is that about! Sorry, I guess that I am in my angry stage of greiving.

MaLee · 04-27-2003, 02:13 PM

(((Hugs))) It is hard to tell when AF shows after a m/c. My hcg was 0 after only 17 days after D&C. This was 8-19-02. AF flow didn't show until 1-30-03 after 2 doses of Provera. Your beta numbers should drop by a third every week - at least. It should take much longer to hit 0.

kcal · 04-28-2003, 05:58 PM

on Saturday night. I was actually only one day later than my usual cycle. I did find out by my RE today that they are making me wait 3 cycles again before we can try. I am not very happy. I feel that since this m/c was soooo early it should not count like the last one with a D/C and everything. She also said that next time I will stay on Met. instead of quitting when I get a positive test. Does this count as one cycle does anybody know? If it does that is only 2 months to wait which is not that bad, but if it doesn't than by the time I would get to start Clomid again it would be 4 months. I also still have to have a blood test done on Friday to make sure the hcg level is zero even though I started.

Bethany · 04-28-2003, 06:25 PM

I am so sorry for what you are going through. I am right there with you, I know your feelings all too well (check out my post above yours from yesterday! BAD day). It's so hard

Personally af did not take long to come for me with each of my 2 chemical pregnancies. The 1st time I started spotting & that was what tipped me off that there was a problem with my pg. Af came on full force within a week. The 2nd time af also came in about a week, maybe a week & 1/2 ,after finding out that my betas weren't doubling properly & another m/c was inevitable. So I never had to wait too long to m/c (thank God). My breasts were still tender too even while I had begun m/c bleeding, I guess b/c the hormones are still there.
One interesting thing is that af came both times before my betas were at zero. My RE said there was a chance that my 1st m/c was ectopic, maybe that's why? (Betas don't fall as fast with ectopic pgs; they don't continue to climb but they don't dive either, the # stays more stable-ish).

Well, if your beta is 8 then I would imagine that it should be down to zero within 2 or 3 days (if it goes like mine did). Make sure that you stop supplemental Progesterone if you are taking if, that will hold off af. Also, my Dr still has me on Met, are you still taking yours, I think you should be?
BTW, my RE is doing a while slew of b/w after my next (natural) af to see if there is another reason why I have m/c'd twice. The test for chromosomal genetic problems isn't covered here until 3 m/c's but there must be some simple & inexpensive blood tests your Dr can do to see if there's an obvious problem that is fixable? There's absolutely no reason you should have to risk going through a 3rd m/c if they can find some obvious & correctable reason!!!!!
In case you want to ask your Dr, here is the list of what my Dr is checking (I am copying it off the requistion):

-Coagulation: -INR, PTT
-Factor inhibitors: -Antithrombin, Protein C, Activated protein C resist., Lupus anticoagulant, Protein S (PRS)
-Hormones: -Prolactin, TSH,
-Immunology: -ANA, Anti-DNA (double), Rheumatoid factor, Anti-Cardiolipin

Good luck, don't give up hope. I know it's so so hard but we have been pg twice, & that's more than some people. At least we know the egg & sperm can meet

If you want to talk you can pm me (doesn't seem to work most times) or email me: lisenior@hotmail.com.