I'm a 28 year old female, not pregnant, actually still a virgin.
I have a volunteer job but haven't been able to find a paying job (I'm thinking about moving out of state to find one although I'm bummed that I might not reach my weight loss goal before then for my Weight Watchers leader to see - she's been helping me for the last 5 years while I went up and down the PCOS weight yoyo. I have 50 pounds to go and my lease ends December 20).
Anyway, I really don't know how I am going to go from being a 28 year old virgin with no paid job and 8 learning difficulties/partial blindness and other physical handicaps (all from brain surgery I had at age 12) to being ready to try for a pregnancy - if necessary on my own (I hope to find Mr. Right but I haven't had the greatest luck with guys so far - two one month relationships in the past year, one kept pressuring me for anal sex and the other was emotionally abusive. I also had a six month one at age 20 but we were both pretty immature at the time).
My parents are supporting me financially so I can live 13 hours away as independantly as possible but they can't keep it up forever - they say they like to work but they are both in their early 60s and deserve to retire.
Anyway, the more I read about PCOS, infertility, age of the mother, etc. the more worried I get that I will have to have them sooner than I think. I just don't feel ready at all right now but I know that I do want kids. Any advice would be appreciated!
Granted it is harder to have kids the older you get and throwing in PCOS just makes it worse, but there are a lot of women on this board that have gotten pregnant in their 30's and 40's. If you feel you are not ready then dont start stressing about it yet!!!! My advice to you would be to focus on your life right now and get a paying job and be happy! When you can, start saving for a baby cause if you need help to get preggo it can cost some money if your insurance doesnt cover it. Who knows, you might not have problems, you could get knocked up the first time you have sex lol.
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Honestly, I think you have enough worries in your life at present to be stressing about future motherhood . PCOS is not a sure-fire infertility sentence. When the time comes, you may have trouble getting pregnant, you may not. Not all women with PCOS have to undergo treatments or have a hard time conceiving. And your weight loss efforts have enormous potential to help in that department as well. I've been able to conceive all my kids due to either weight loss or being at a healthy weight (we had trouble conceiving our first, but the second two were quick and easy since I was in shape and at a good weight).
Focus on the immediate things you can change now, in order to get your life moving in the direction you want. Hopefully motherhood is in your future, but all things in time. Adding theoretical worries about something you're not even ready for at the moment will just increase your level of stress - and I don't think any of us need help adding stress to our lives!
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My grandmother was the worst worrier of us all! To top it off both my parents (and my brother) have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder.
I was on Prozac for it but it was stalling all weight loss effort so I stopped it and now I only take Buspar (but my doctor told me to let her know how things were going once winter arrived).
I even worry about all the sex I haven't had and whether I have majorly missed out! There just seem to be so many jerks out there ... *sigh*
I hope my younger brother's girlfriend appreciates good influence I was for him and how he was trained to always put the seat down when we shared a bathroom growing up!
Oh and guess what ... my high school reunion is coming up October 7th. At the moment I weigh 50 pounds more than I did in high school (when I had some signs of PCOS - borderline hypoglycemea and hair on my nipples) but was living under the roof of the "food police" aka my loving parents who watched what I ate like hawks.
Then came college, the freshman 15/sophomore 20, full blown PCOS, birth control for acne, etc. and on came 68 pounds (20 of which I have lost so far by forcing myself to learn to cook and stop going out to eat).
I almost feel like going with a cloak around me but maybe it won't be as bad as I fear - even though I did grow up in Miami 30 minutes from South Beach bikini body central!
If I hear anyone say something like, "Wow you sure did gain weight after high school" I think I will just cry!
Just a quick word, i'm 36. I got pregnant with this one when I was 35. Before this one, I was 30-31 when I got pregnant with my first 3 (they ended in miscarriage). My point is, you have time to get your life together and find the right one before worrying about motherhood.
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Honestly, I think you have enough worries in your life at present to be stressing about future motherhood . PCOS is not a sure-fire infertility sentence. When the time comes, you may have trouble getting pregnant, you may not. Not all women with PCOS have to undergo treatments or have a hard time conceiving. And your weight loss efforts have enormous potential to help in that department as well.
Agreed.
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Originally Posted by CAMMAM
Granted it is harder to have kids the older you get and throwing in PCOS just makes it worse...
worried about the future (not a mother yet) 
. PCOS is not a sure-fire infertility sentence. When the time comes, you may have trouble getting pregnant, you may not. Not all women with PCOS have to undergo treatments or have a hard time conceiving. And your weight loss efforts have enormous potential to help in that department as well. I've been able to conceive all my kids due to either weight loss or being at a healthy weight (we had trouble conceiving our first, but the second two were quick and easy since I was in shape and at a good weight). 
