I am here to ask questions. My dh and I have unfortunately had no luck with fertility treatments and are retluctant to try more due to the financial impact of trying without success in the past. I find myself more and more drawn to the adoption option but my dh does not seem to be interested at all. I don't know what to do at this point - I can't push him although I find myself questioning him as to why he is not interested. I am 36 he is 40 so I feel that it is something I would want to move forward on before we are both too much older. I guess I am just going to have to resign myself to being childless or pray that he changes his mind. In the past he has stressed the importance of having a "biological" child to me - and believe me I have tried every way in this world to make that happen but there are some things you can't change. To me the whole biology thing is not an issue - I know that I could bond with a baby and I truly believe that he would too but I also know that he has to want it too or it will never be the "right" decision. Any input appreciated. Say a prayer that his heart will open to the option otherwise I guess the dream is coming to a sad conclusion for me!!
Sydney
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Yes my DS was always interested in adoption. But he came from a family with lots of adoption.
I know some guys can come around to it, so keep praying.
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i feel your pain sydney my hubby n i arent even ttc yet but we have discussed the chance that we may ony have the adoption option n he is open to it of coarse he would love to see his flesh n blood but we want the joy of nurturing a child n watching it learn grow nto a healthy adult we can be proud of i see where your hubby is coming from but i sympathize with you completly you really are between a rock and a hard place ( our in my thuoghts and prayers)
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My DH really wanted to keep trying as long as possible (which we did), I brought up adoption bout 6 months to a year before we started the process. He wasn't ready so we continued TTC. During our second round of injections one night, DH saw (finally) what a toll it was taking on my and my body/emotions/etc. and said that it was time to stop. We never looked back and focused 100% on our adoption. (We DID revisit IF treatments about 8 months ago since I had lost 50 lbs and are pg with a mircle now, but that is not typical)
Pam
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Well, I can definantly say that my dh was not gung ho about adoption...he wanted ttc...but after we went to the inf. dr...and he saw the tests that I was going to have to do before we started any treatments he said a firm no. I would have gone through them if dh wanted ttc...but my heart was not into it...at all...I've always had a heart for adoption...so anyhow, now that we are there and looking he is excited but reserved...
I know that you have heard this, but if you are meant to adopt then you will...but I do understand what point you are at...with you want to go ahead and start and dh not there yet...he will...you just have to give him time...
Was your dh always interested in adoption? 
